Wisdom Inspired Wellness

When I was navigating through the unfamiliar waters of menopause, one of the difficult challenges that I faced was the feeling that I was losing myself. Things that I had always enjoyed, had no appeal, my body was changing, so the clothes I would normally wear no longer seemed flattering. Sometimes it was as if a stranger resided in my body alongside me and it made me unsettled, anxious, and even angry at times.

Looking back, because all of this happened during a very difficult physical, emotional, spiritual transition, I couldn't see clearly the simple truth: I was going through yet another rite of passage, an initiation into my new older, wiser self.

I learned this great wisdom from Susun Weed in her book New Menopausal Years - The Wise Woman Way, p.244, where she says, "You've spent time in some form of isolation as you journeyed the unpredictable years of menopause...You return as Crone. You hold your wise blood inside. You have learned how to spiral the updrafts of hot flashes. You have learned detachment in the midst of emotional hurricanes. You have submitted yourself to chaos and have witnessed the most ancient of all mysteries. How can you share this with your community?"

During those years I sometimes felt isolated, alone even when surrounded by my family. There was confusion on many levels at times as I tried to understand what was happening, and all of it was leading up to my rebirth as the last stages of menopause are now complete. I see now that this was all to prepare me for new roles in serving women during their journey, not just in menopause, but women in every phase of life.

This meditation was sent to me from DailyOm.com and it explains this process very well...

July 4, 2012
Life Transitions
The Death and Rebirth of Self
by Madisyn Taylor


Sometimes a part of us must die before another part can come to life.

Sometimes a part of us must die before another part can come to life. Even though this is a natural and necessary part of our growth, it is often painful or, if we don’t realize what’s happening, confusing and disorienting. In fact, confusion and disorientation are often the messengers that tell us a shift is taking place within us. These shifts happen throughout the lives of all humans, as we move from infancy to childhood to adolescence and beyond. With each transition from one phase to another, we find ourselves saying good-bye to an old friend, the identity that we formed in order to move through that particular time. 

Sometimes we form these identities in relationships or jobs, and when we shift those areas of our life become unsettled. Usually, if we take the time to look into the changing surface of things, we will find that a shift is taking place within us. For example, we may go through one whole chapter of our lives creating a protective shell around ourselves because we need it in order to heal from some early trauma. One day, though, we may find ourselves feeling confined and restless, wanting to move outside the shelter we needed for so long; the new part of ourselves cannot be born within the confines of the shell our old self needed to survive. 

We may feel a strange mixture of exhilaration and sadness as we say good-bye to a part of ourselves that is dying and make way for a whole new identity to emerge in its place. We may find inspiration in working with the image of an animal who molts or sheds in order to make way for new skin, fur, or feathers to emerge. For example, keeping a duck feather, or some other symbol of transformation, can remind us that death and rebirth are simply nature’s way of evolving. We can surrender to this process, letting go of our past self with great love and gratitude, and welcoming the new with an open mind and heart, ready for our next phase of life.


Are you going through a new phase? Does this resonate within you?